My laptop is currently out of working order. I’m fairly certain it’s going to the laptop grave soon. This is why updates are scarce from me lately, but this morning I’m typing on my phone and praising God for the wordpress mobile app.
This morning I want to give some thought to submission. It’s a word that makes a lot of women cringe and can justify guys being jerks to women, too. I’d like to think about this specifically in the family, not within corporate church situations (that’s a whole other topic that I’m still thinking through. 1 Cor 14 has confused me recently). Ephesians gives us a good model for family. Somewhere in 1 Corinthians also contributes greatly to my understanding of this.
In the family, Christ is the head, man submit Christ, woman submits to the man, and children to their parents. If we consider this, we should first notice that the whole family is ultimately under the headship of Christ because they are part of God’s epic extended family and God’s the head of that one. And the smaller ones, too.
We then come to see that the woman submits to the man. Here is where I’ve had discussions with feminist friends who are struggling with this. I suppose my first question about this is… Women, why would you marry a man you wouldn’t be happy to submit to? I understand that all men will make mistakes and sin, just as women do, but if overall, the man you marry isn’t someone you will let lead you because he is too cowardly, bad tempered, controlling… Whatever he is…. Why are you marrying him?
My second thought on this is taken from somewhere in 1 Corinthians. Paul writes that the woman’s body belong to her husband. And then that the man’s belongs to his wife. There in that statement we find that there is a mutual acceptance and ownership within a marriage. The man doesn’t run a dictatorship.
Here is my final thought, and I hope you can pardon the scattered thoughts this morning. The biblical idea of marriage presented to us in Paul’s letters is not restricting. It is the husband serving his family by following Christ and leading his family and it is the wife supporting him, not with blind obedience, but with a godly heart that will encourage and rebuke her husband. It isn’t restricting.
In fact, I think it’s kinda nice.