Mark Driscoll wrote a post on the Washington Post blog about his favourite hobbyhorse – adolescence.
When he spoke in Australia a few years ago he spoke about it, too. If you’re not familiar with his point, he talks about how there used to only be two stages – boy, and man. Now we’ve got adolescence and he calls them boys who can shave – they live at home, they have no job or a dead-end job and they refuse to grow up.
Driscoll is coming on too strong in regards to this topic, I think. Don’t get me wrong – I hated when I lived alone and my friends left their mess around assuming that someone would clean up after them. But if the developmental stage of adolescence is a reality, then if these boys who can shave moved out of home, got a career and a wife, and then children… wouldn’t they be doing something incredibly stupid? All of those things are huge steps, and taking them simply because you’ve turned a certain age would be insane. If someone got married before they were ready to lead a family, the man wouldn’t lose a lot – but the woman would. She would be submitting to someone not grown enough to lead.
Now, those are just my thoughts. They might be completely nonsensical. But what I’m saying is that if this stage has developed, then we do need to let it exist and not squeeze it out. It allows for a lot of good things – lots of memories, better formed friendships, more academic learning. We shouldn’t enable it by cleaning up their mess, paying their bills and essentially, mothering them. But it needs to exist, I think.
Thus, I’m disagreeing with Mark Driscoll.
Your thoughts on the issue?